You ask me what’s the fundamental problem facing a man with lusty desires for consensual non-monogamy? It is NOT, I repeat not, “convincing” his wife or gf to step out on him. If only it were that simple. Tick all the boxes on your checklist and PRESTO she hops into…

You may not like the answer if you’re a guy. The reason why she cheats is pretty obvious, actually. I’m assuming she actually loves you and cares about your relationship. I’m not talking about those ratchet hoes that like to string guys along for fun or because they’re lazy flakes…

Imagine you’re trying to light a fire in the stove in the middle of winter to heat up the room. Only, you drop a whole can of lighter fluid, a candle falls on it, and you end up setting the house on fire. You got what you wanted. The room’s…

I was out for coffee with an old friend one morning when we saw a gorgeous waiter. My friend, she was always on the adventurous side of life. She’s the one (well, one of them) who turned my mind and appetites in this direction, many years ago. When she saw…

A little birdie told me a scandalous story the other day. A couple had opened up their marriage for the wife to have play-time with others at her discretion. The husband, being a modern liberal kind of guy, was happy to let her play. Stress on was. She recently received…

I got an email the other morning from a reader who was NOT happy with her husband’s performance. It was one of those arrangements where they’d got together young, been each other’s first, and got married soon after high school. You know the story. She had an awakening on realizing…

Would you want to wake up one morning next to a dumpster stinking of garbage, in a dark, wet back alley, on a cold winter morning and no memory of how you got there or why? Me neither. I once had a friend who “slept rough” (as she liked to…

You don’t expect to pick up a camera and take world-class photos on day one, do you? Don’t be silly! It takes time, plus dedication to regular practice, and building the skills that make a good photographer. You start out easy. Doing little things. If you’re coming from a situation…